Thursday, 21 July 2011

leaving the past behind part 2

     going  into high school  my first day of high school i remember i was sick  from being so nervous i was  still teased  but  i tolerated it.  i was still so insecure i had this  weird  mumbling  whisper thing i did. i know it sounds  funny right.  but i honestly didn't think that i had a voice worth speaking to anyone. i  masked alot of hurt and pain inside started  to suffer depression and got more and more angry  i  kept  getting into  fights  with mom.  i  felt life was a constant battle ground. i  never really learned  like others  so i felt stupid  compared to everyone.  i never saw anything in myself.  at the age of 15 i had my first  real boyfriend.  after a month or 2 i broke up with him that was hard  but i knew that we couldn't be together.no point  holding onto something that needs to be let go of. i had a few other boyfriends after that nothing that really lasted.in that  time  i had caused  so much  strife in the family that  dad got angry 1 night he slapped me  across the face and told he  how  he was   so close  to leaving the family because i made his life a living hell. truth be told i was searching for love and  wanted to feel secure in a relationship so i would settle  for guys who didn't really mean anything. i know how selfish that must sound. OK again in grade  10  i was sexually assaulted at school i felt  like the  scum of the earth  i  got  really discouraged  and  felt ashamed and  violated. i couldn't  understand why this was happening to me as you can imagine i blamed god and thought he must have stopped loving me for sure.I  became so angry and  no one  understood why.  i felt  so abandoned and forgotten about.i sunk into a depression deeper then before.  I began to eat away my hurt.nothing i did  seemed ever good enough i was completely lonely lost and  broken and afraid of trusting anyone enough.I  was at the lowest point ever.  even then i had the courage to say no to sex, drugs, alcohol and smoking  for  i knew that I had a little  sister and i had to lead  an example for her and others.
then i switched churches to crossroads community church where i met some very instrumental people in my life. to this day it was Kayla McLaughlin, Vance and Julie dettman that kept me coming back. I was the inconvenienced younger sister at the time to my brother.  Aaron didn't want  rach or i to be there. i just knew i had to leave my parents church i was tired of  feeling so lonely  and insecure. tired of being the reject everywhere i went. in high school it became easy to mask even in crossroads at first probably for the  first 2 or 3 years i still felt  like an outsider. 
   it was hard to get out of my shell. being i had hid from everyone.I buried myself deep and closed the door to people it was my defense mechanism.  I had the  hardest  time letting anyone in so i wouldn't get hurt again. when i finally  let someone  close enough i pushed them away.
    

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